Posted in compassion, Trusting The Holy Spirit

Being Authentic & Spiritual Growth

This is a brief post. I wanted to make a small statement about the importance of being authentic.

I am trying to follow the Holy Spirit in where my blog should go, instead of perhaps, all over the place, as I tend to do πŸ™ƒ

Sorting through some old notes just now, I find this…

Struggles v Learnings

I wrote it on the back of a 5 year old YouTube channel plan.

Thought it might inspire someone.

Be blessed πŸ™Œ

Posted in writing a book

Writing a book, keeping the secret

I would sooo much love to tell you everything about the books I am writing, each one is very exciting to me. They are close to my heart. They make the child in me skip around and jump for joy, they make the teenager within cry, and then evolve – tears evaporate and she too dances around. They make the young woman feel closer to God, more than ever before – her heart slows to the beat of Holy Power, and she once again feels strong and uplifted. But if I tell you all about each of the manuscripts, that will be it, you’ll know, and the excitement will deflate like a leaky balloon. So I need to somehow contain this frustration and transform it into motivation to get the bloomin’ things finished! Then, at last I can share them with you.

So, here’s a picture of my dog.

2 responses to “Writing a book, keeping the secret”

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    JM

    We will patiently endure until release.

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Posted in compassion

Hello Sunshine!

Hey,

I just dropped by to say, Hello…

Whatever you’re feeling right now, whatever is going on for you, I care.

And if you are sitting there alone, with no one to share your day, staring into space, I care, and would like to say, Hello.

Hello!

…and,

there is a great big smile, with a gentle virtual hug on its way to you right now, through the ether…

catch them!!

Through all the rain, may your day grow brighter.

Take care Sunshine. Be well.

2 responses to “Hello Sunshine!”

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    Claire Millward

    Fabulous resource. Just the help when your feeling sad and low.

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Posted in compassion

What is true compassion?

Compassion Speech from the film, The Good Catholic.

This is John C McGinley’s speech on compassion. McGinley plays Father Ollie in the movie, The Good Catholic.

I found this speech emotionally moving. It portrays everything I strive to be as a Christian and therapist.

Be blessed.

What is your experience of compassion?

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Posted in aspergers

Have you been diagnosed with Autism / Asperger’s as an adult?

Yesterday, I was diagnosed with Autism and Asperger’s by a specialist in the NHS after a 2.5 hour assessment. The formal report will follow, then I can understand better.

Is it okay to tell you? Because this is a really big thing for me. It affects absolutely everything in my life. No wonder I obsess, no wonder I am abrupt, no wonder people call me insensitive, no wonder, no wonder, no wonder…..

I think it’s going to take a while to sink in.

I’m 54 years old, why go for a diagnosis at my age?

When years of physical illness has no apparent reason other than a response to stress because I cannot speak my internal experience, when I’ve already been through a 9 year therapy mill to reach accountability as a psychotherapist and counsellor, yet I am still weird. When I have processed lots of past events and unfinished emotions, yet I am still an odd-bod. When it affects those around me to such an extent that it threatens relationships. When I get stuck in so many areas for no apparent reason…

It’s probably time to dig a little deeper. It’s probably a good idea to understand why writing is so therapeutic for me and being creative to such an extent that I disappear into it for days or weeks at a time and forget feed myself! It’s probably a good idea to understand why I could eat chicken sandwiches and cheesy crisps from the co-op supermarket every single day and be non-plussed about why my partner wants a different meal every day. Or why I go stir crazy if people call or visit (even if I am expecting them) and I am in the middle of something, my routine and structure, for goodness sake, it’s nothing personal! It is because I’m an alien from the planet zonk, whose idea of friendship is to wander off into a field and enjoy nature, alone!

Words escape me today, there seems to be an empty space before me.

Perhaps this is the space for the remainder of my life as an alien? But with Super Powers :):):)

Thanks for listening πŸ™‚ I needed that.

How did you feel after your diagnosis?

2 responses to “Have you been diagnosed with Autism / Asperger’s as an adult?”

  1. Deborah avatar

    I just began the process to pursue a diagnosis myself. The evaluator is so booked for so long, it will be months before I get in. And yet, the steps so far, with me at 43, have brought me such relief. So, too, has finding a couple fellow β€œalien” women. To find folks who think like me makes being alien feel more like community and much less lonely, which is the same feeling I had while reading your post. Thank you for sharing it. ❀️

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    1. Busy Corner Books, Independent Book Publisher, incorporating faith-filled creative inspiration through 20+ years of psychotherapy experience. avatar

      You’re welcome, and thank you for your kind words. It’s lovely to meet you πŸ™‚
      Yes it is a long waiting time to be diagnosed, around 18 months on the NHS, I think. They brought mine forward because I had too many blue light emergency visits to hospital. I couldn’t translate a recent family trauma. The ambulance staff raised a red flag, hardly surprising really. I wasn’t aware of my behaviour! But I’ve a feeling it’s going to be life-changing, even at 54 years old.
      I can recognise what you are saying too. It does feel good yo connect with people who understand and ‘get it’. I hope you soon get your assessment and can plan a way forward. A friend told me it really is like discovering you have super powers πŸ™‚

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Posted in transitions

Transitions

Life is filled with transitions. That is what helps me to describe the chaos in between the change. When a client has spoken to me about a difficult time and there is no resolution to their circumstances, I will often say, ‘you’re going through a transition, be kind to yourself, change will happen when you least expect and you’ll receive a learning sooner or later, just be still and be patient with yourself.’

Sometimes it works, and we are able to explore the client’s current situation and how they are coping with whatever life is throwing at them. Other times the client’s experience is so painful or unbearable that it feels insensitive to say in time this too will pass. And this is a time when ‘holding a session’, trusting further the power of the Holy Spirit to deliver enough strength, to find the right words to say, or not to say. This is a time when silent strength fully takes its place.

Why am I telling you this?

Because the time between running the show on our own and letting God lead the way, is difficult for most people a lot of the time. It’s a little bit like abseiling and not putting trust in the well known and trusted equipment. You’ve seen other people abseil down the cliff, you’re afraid of heights but want to achieve this new venture, there is even a guide at the top and finish of the equipment to ensure they see you off the top and break your fall. This equipment is the best, it has been tested hundreds of times.

But the next step is yours. Only you can do this…put on the harness, the armour, the protection…trust in its Power, see the destination, its yours. Be helped, be guided, remind yourself everything is going to be okay. Trust. Let go into His arms.

I wrote this blog during my prayer time.

And to compliment this blog post, my daily reading was associated with Joshua 1:9,

Have I not commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee withersoever thou goest. Joshua 1:9 KJV

Posted in our best selling book

Our very own escape to the countryside

July 2007 – One sunny and rose tinted glorious afternoon deep in the Lincolnshire Countryside…

For the first time ever, we are sharing our life with Real Nature, and something amazing is happening to us…

This is much more than rose-tinted glasses and impulsive decisions: it’s a sweet and glorious day. It is the beginning of our life-changing transition. It is the marking of many moments together when we can spiritually acknowledge being part of God’s boundless creation.

If we are to live in this new environment, we must learn how to share. Not to change the beauty, but to give generously, as Nature does with us. Even the tiniest bud on the smallest flower in our garden has its own turn in The Great Almighty’s plan.

We are learning to respect Nature… And we are learning, wherever we are… to inhale, to savour, to take notice, to listen, to feel our internal response, to acknowledge, natural life:

Our God is in all things. It took us both some time to realise this.

And this love is for our receiving, if we choose…

through faith, integrity, but most of all, through true love.

Be blessed.

Amen.